• Becoming Who I Want to Be

    I’ve spent most of my life trying to conform to other’s expectations. I told myself that I wasn’t conforming at all, but even adopting labels like geek or tomboy, were still ways of me conforming to others’ expectations. As a young child, I insisted I was a boy. Everything about boys resonated with me, while …

  • Stuck in Limbo

    Lately I’ve very much felt as if I’m stuck in limbo. I have a need to move forward with my life, but I’m stuck treading water and it’s getting to a point where it’s really frustrating. I no longer have the same love and passion for my consulting work that I once had. A big …

  • Being Bi-Gender

    I am still doing a lot of self-discovery and introspection these days. As I recently posted, I have come to realize that I am on the asexual spectrum, being both demisexual and sapiosexual. Another thing I have come to realize is that I am not strictly cisgender either (cisgender is identifying with the sex you …

  • Coming Out as Demisexual

    One thing that I have noticed over the past year since losing my husband, is the fact that a lot of people seem to take great interest in my sex life (or lack thereof). If I say “it’s too soon” they will often back off but if I say that I have no interest in …