Good Reflections on a Bad Year

It’s been a long time since I’ve had the motivation to write a blog post, but this time of year always leads me to reflecting on the past, and this year is no exception. My 2016 started off pretty bad, fighting to keep my husband from drowning in despair, and then losing him anyway. Not a day will go by that I don’t think about him, and while I don’t blame myself, I think I will always wonder…what if?

Needless to say, as bad as my year has been, so many have had it as bad or worse; Syrian refugees, the victims in Orlando, Brexit, the US Presidental Election, and the families of everyone, famous or not, who died this year. This has been a really rough year.

Instead on dwelling on all the darkness, I want to take a moment to reflect on the positives that I’ve had in my year instead.

Friends. I cannot imagine getting through 2016 without all the support I’ve had from my friends this year. I am in awe over how amazing they have been. They have kept me company, helping me sort through my husband’s belongings, getting up early to help me with my garage sale to clear out some of his old things, and getting up in the middle of the night to take me to the emergency room for what turned out to be a minor problem (thank goodness). This year would have been so much more difficult without them. Thank you.

Family. Both my own and my husband’s family have been supportive and there for me when I needed them. Especially his family. They lost a son, a brother, and a nephew. They grieved his loss as much, or perhaps even more, than I did. Yet they were so kind and gracious in regards to literally everything this year, when they didn’t have to be. I read a lot of horror stories about families bickering and in-fighting when someone passes, and I am so grateful none of that happened. Thank you.

Besides those two huge positives spots, I was excited to watch the Chicago Cubs win the 2016 World Series (the first time in 108 years, yay!). I also managed to pay off the mortgage on my house by selling my husband’s income property (I didn’t want to deal with the property and using the proceeds from the sale I was able to keep the roof over my head without worry). I’ve slowly gotten back into working on my novel. I’m now going through the third round of edits and revisions. I plan to start shopping it around to literary agents after this round in the hopes of eventually getting published. If that doesn’t happen, I plan to self-publish instead. That’s something I’m looking forward to accomplishing in 2017.

I’ve also been seriously thinking about taking on an adjunct professor role at my local university, if they have any need for one in the department I graduated from back in 2001. I’ve been talking to a former professor of mine and perhaps sometime in the next few years I may be able to start doing that. If I just teach part-time, it will allow me to continue my consulting work and writing, while giving me a more stable source of income. In the meantime I do still have my consulting business, although I really stepped back from that a lot this past year (for obvious reasons). I hope to come back and really bring my business back in 2017.

So, while I don’t make resolutions, I do like to focus on goals (I know, semantics..). My goals for 2017 are to focus more on myself and my health (no weight loss goals, just a focus on being healthier), to get my novel published one way or another, and to build up my business again.

Do you have any goals or resolutions for 2017?

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